For decades now moms have had to juggle the many roles they fill, wife, daughter, sister, working woman and of course mom. For years we were also told that we could have it all and we needed to be perfect in all of these roles. Small wonder we are going crazy. We agonize over every decision we make and constantly second guess ourselves. We all want healthy happy kids and have the ability to enjoy our lives, but we can’t do that with the myth of the ‘Supermom’ hanging over our heads like some albatross. It’s time to debunk the myth of the Supermom once and for all. Here’s how:
- Start with Family
Choose what is important to you and your family and make decisions from there. There is more than one way to raise happy, well-adjusted kids that become valuable members of society so stop worrying how others do it. Don’t compare your kids to others and your kid will be just fine if they aren’t forced to take violin lessons that they hate anyway. Encourage them to do the things that they love, it will be easier on all of you.
- Stop Sweating the Small Stuff
So the beds aren’t made and you have dishes in the sink…who cares. Your family will be just fine having sandwiches for dinner, save the gourmet meals for a time you have the energy. This doesn’t mean you aren’t providing for your family, and stop making yourself feel guilty trying to measure up to impossible standards. Here’s how.
- You Don’t Owe Anyone an Explanation
You don’t need to justify to a PTA mom why your child doesn’t take violin or when they go to bed. This is your family and you know what works best for them. That being said, don’t judge how someone else’s family works either.
- Do What You’re Good At
If you’re not the mom that volunteers for every school activity because the notion of hanging out with 40 5 year olds makes your head want to explode then don’t feel guilty. If you’re more comfortable organizing or doing something else then go with that. Teachers are grateful for any help they get. Volunteering for something you loathe…don’t do it.
- Remember Your Friends
It’s very easy to get caught up in the day to day routine of family and kids, but you’re a person too. Surround yourself with people who are supportive and who can be a sounding board when you’re frustrated and want to tear your hair out because that is totally going to happen.
The Supermom thing is a myth and stop making yourself crazy trying to live up to impossible standards. Life doesn’t come with instructions so you’re going to make mistakes, embrace them as the learning experience they are.